![]() ![]() They go to the local pub to watch the game, chat to the staff, and play a bit of pool. They grab a meal while they're downtown shopping all afternoon. They check out some live music at a nearby blues bar on a slow Wednesday evening. It's not at all unusual for well-adjusted, socially active people to do things by themselves. Sure, some people never do things on their own, but that doesn't make the practice wrong. Getting past this issue is mostly a matter of realizing it's okay to go to certain places without company. If you're at the same place because you purposely came alone, then you feel like you're doing something wrong for being there, and worry that everyone is going to notice what a lonely weirdo you are. If you're at a bar on your own because you're meeting your friends and they're running late, you feel fine. It's funny how your comfort level at a venue can be largely determined by whether you feel like you have a "legitimate" reason for being there by yourself. This is the biggest mental barrier to going out by yourself, and is a factor in some of the other issues below. Problem #1: The feeling that you're doing something pathetic or inappropriate for being somewhere alone, and that people are going to judge you negatively for it There are lots of other ways to meet people, so don't ever feel it's something you have to do. It just requires a certain level of confidence, outgoingness, and conversation skill. I think it's relatively easy to get used to going out by yourself to do activities, but it's tougher when your goal is to socialize and make friends. You can go out, practice as much as you'd like, on your own time, and then leave whenever you want.īenefits aside, people often feel self-conscious and ill at ease when they're out alone. ![]() It can be a good way to practice social skills like starting and holding conversations with strangers.No more having to show up late because your roommates take forever to get ready. No having to stay longer than you'd like because your friends aren't tired yet. ![]()
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